10 Self Care Vacation Tips to Help you Create Your Own Happiness

Taking a self care vacation can help you combat stress, feel positive, and live a happier life.
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I have been DYING to get away since 2019- the pandemic left me feeling bleh. So when my daughter came home last week and told me her mental health was poor, I knew just what was needed! I have been planning self care vacations since the early 2000’s to combat the stress. When you live with a mental health disorder, a self care vacation can be just what you need to recharge, reconnect, and feel like yourself again. These are my personal do and don’t tips to have a perfect self care vacation that will relax you and create happiness in your life again.

10 Self Care Vacation Tips to Help you Create Your Own Happiness
A good self care vacation will help you create happiness and feel like yourself again.


While I have hacked mental health for over 20 years, that experience does not make me a mental health professional. I am just a girl living with mental illness. This content is educational and informative and is not to replace the advice of your mental health team or doctor. Try these tips at your own risk.

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What is a Self Care Vacation?

A self care vacation is an essential tool in your self care kit to help you improve your mental health. It can be:

  • a day off
  • a staycation
  • a vacation away from home
  • or any time dedicated to actively improving your mental health.

The perfect self care vacation is created with the goal of improving your mental health and creating positive emotions again. It does not have to be expensive to be effective. It is simply a temporary stress relief method to help you feel better faster.

Your Self Care Vacation should help you recharge your mind and body.
Your Self Care Vacation should help recharge your body and mind.

How Does a Self Care Vacation Help Me Create Happiness?

Like any stress relief method, a self care vacation helps you combat stress. When you’re surrounded by stress, all problems seem larger. This tool can help you get “outside the box” and help you relax and solve your problem. Other benefits of a self care vacation include:

  • Feel more relaxed
  • Recharge your soul
  • Be inspired to make positive changes
  • Become engaged in your life and passions again
  • Start feeling happier
  • Get an outside view of your problems
  • Get a jumpstart on taking care of yourself
  • and much more!
A perfect self care vacation will help you create happiness.
A perfect self care vacation will help you create happiness.

Self Care Vacation Tips To Create Your Own Happiness

These are my do’s and don’ts for a perfect self care vacation that will help you create happiness and relax. Pin the image below on Pinterest for a quick reference!

10 Self Care Vacation Tips to Help you Create Your Own Happiness
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Don’t Leave Behind a Dirty Home

Clutter can increase stress, overstimulation, and cause other mental issues. The purpose of a self care vacation is to improve your mental health and to come back refreshed. There are several perks to coming home to a clean home:

  • The vacation vibe can continue! Coming home to a clean home delays chores and can help you bring that relaxed state back to your everyday life.
  • You can tell immediately if your home is disturbed by home sitters, pet sitters, or uninvited guests.
  • You won’t have to clean up to eat or sleep.
  • You will breathe easier with a clean home.
  • You will sleep better in clean sheets!
  • It helps you get ahead of your everyday life.

I like to spend a few hours cleaning my house prior to departure. This cleaning planner is filled with worksheets to help you get organized, so cleaning is a breeze. It really helps me find a starting point when I am overwhelmed with chores. When I come home, I feel nice and zen and my mind stays calmer and stress free. There is nothing like coming home to no chores!!!!

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Having a clean home to come home to will keep you relaxed longer.

Make an Upbeat Playlist for the Drive

This week I took time with my daughter for a self care vacation. During our 5 hour drive, we played upbeat and fun music. I sang so much that I went hoarse!! My spirits were lifted; I felt energized, and I was ready to have fun!

I love music! And having songs at my fingertips is a must for me. I use Amazon Music to create playlists for my many moods.

My #1 rule for my road trip playlist is: no songs that cause negative feelings. No sad, depressed, or anxious feelings allowed!! Feeling uplifted helps me have fun during my self care vacation. Good music can soothe the soul and change your mood.

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Singing in the car relieves stress.

Choose a Destination that Relaxes and Grounds You

I am uniquely blessed to have travel as part of my life. As a military family, we have lived all over the world- including Japan! So when I plan a self care vacation, I always think about what spot is going to help me create happiness.

Since we don’t live close to family, my favorite destination is my hometown in North Carolina. I get to visit my family and spend days with them after being apart for so long.

My destinations may not be the trending hot spot, but they always help me find stress relief and happiness again.

Here are a few suggestions for the perfect self care vacation destination:

  • A local spot near you that perks your interest:- We currently live in D.C.(as of 2022), and I want to take a little getaway to Old Towne Alexandria with the hubby. I want to spend the weekend there in a local hotel and just relax and explore with him. We can wander the streets and check out local food and shops. But I am close enough to home that I could get back within 30 minutes if I needed to.
  • Local State Parks or campgrounds (with or without cabins)- When I move, my first personal task is to find a local state park, lake, or hiking trails I love. Being around nature for a day helps me destress and feel like myself again. It’s the perfect self care destination. Nature always has a way to make you feel better.
  • BeachesHave you been to a North Carolina beach? There is a reason that NC Beaches draw crowds from all over the United States! And the sound of the ocean waves is really relaxing. We like to go in late March/ early April to avoid tourists while still having nice weather. For a quick pick me up, watch my video of the beach waves.
  • Mountains: There are some GORGEOUS mountain towns! One of my favorites is Asheville, North Carolina. Wouldn’t you love to sit on the porch with a cup of coffee and watch local wildlife?
  • Local Bed and Breakfast: Sometimes just getting away for the weekend is enough!
  • Your Hometown: –If you don’t live there already, getting back to your roots can help you reconnect with happy childhood memories.
  • A vacation spot you have always wanted to see:- Mine is Iceland! We are planning this self care vacation for after my husband’s military retirement in a few years to celebrate and get accustomed to civilian life again.
  • Somewhere Fun!:- Take a day trip to a local amusement park, a craft fair, dog expo, or some fun activity. You deserve to have fun too!
  • Here’s a book with suggestions: 1000 Perfect Weekends! Great Getaways Around the Globe
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Original Photography by Krystian Howe: Atlantic Beach, Morehead City, North Carolina March 2022

Include Uplifting and Supportive People Or Go Alone

Leave toxic friends and family out of your plans. You are NOT required to take anyone with you that will not support you and uplift you and help you feel better. Take a break from your kids and spouse occasionally so you can reconnect with yourself. When you take care of yourself, you are better equipped to care for others.

As a military spouse, I have gotten used to traveling without my husband. And sometimes that’s great. I need alone time to sort out my thoughts. I encourage my husband to do the same.

But sometimes I want to be with uplifting people. So I visit family and friends that I hadn’t seen. –Sometimes it’s years since seeing some of my friends since we live so far apart! It’s great to reconnect, face to face, with people who love and support me.

Including them on your self care vacation can help you feel loved and supported. I feel happy again and go back home ready to take on my everyday challenges.

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My Daughter and I with my mom and brother: Left Bottom to Top Right: Abigayle Howe, Krystian Howe, Sandy Whitman, Robert Barnes

Take a Tech Break

Life is at our fingertips now. And honestly, I hate it some days. E-mails pile up, text messages pressure me to respond when I am already busy, and those little chimes from social media make me absolutely crazy.

My brother lives for computers and technology, and even he takes a break from the digital world to appreciate our time together.

I frequently take tech breaks when I am on a self care vacation so I can get to know myself again and escape societal pressures, marketing spam, and general negativity.

Getting away from the tech allows me to remember that my life is worth living, and I don’t have to be tuned into the world to be happy.

I know what you’re thinking: “You’re a blogger. Doesn’t your whole career involve tech?” Why yes, it does! But that doesn’t mean it has to run my whole life. I try to not allow myself to get swallowed whole by technology, as being so connected can really be detrimental to my mental health.

If you’re having trouble disconnecting from technology, just like I did, then here are two books that will help you take those first steps.

Digital Minimalism: The Minimalist Way to Avoid Distractions, Cultivate Mindfulness, Declutter Your Computer, and Detox Your Brain from Technology Addiction and Anxiety

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Social Media Detox: A Complete Guide to Overcome Smartphone Addiction. 10 Steps to Regain Your Freedom, Improve Your Relationships and Enjoy Your Life

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Even my computer tech brother unplugged!

Don’t Break Your Budget

We all want to take the ultimate getaway, but having thousands of dollars in debt is NOT the way to help destress your life. Staying on budget will help you keep your financial goals intact and help you feel relaxed, recharged, and happy about your self care vacation.

You don’t want to come home feeling guilty for putting your family in debt that you couldn’t really afford.

I plan with my in-laws, mother, and father to stay at their home to save money. We spend time together, and I get to recharge on a budget. Then I have a little spending money to drive to places I haven’t been in a while.

My self care vacation with gas and food for a week was $200. And I am going home with a sense of peace, accomplishment, and I am ready to get back to my life and take charge. And best of all, I have no guilt about taking care of myself. You don’t have to blow your budget to feel better.

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You can take a self care vacation on a budget if you get creative.

Don’t Overload Your Schedule

Your self care vacation should NOT be jam packed with activities. You want to allow your mind and body time to slow down and destress. Creating happiness doesn’t happen when you are super busy. You will continue to feel stressed and overwhelmed.

Allow lazy days. Eat when your body says it’s hungry. Allow time just to sit and relax. Being un-busy is the key to creating happiness and allowing your body and mind to take time to heal. You wouldn’t schedule a busy day when your body has the flu; don’t do it when your brain needs a break.

Keep your schedule relaxed on your self care vacation.
Relaxing is important to healing your mental health. Don’t pack your schedule with activities. Allow yourself to just be.

Include Well Behaved Pets

I am a worry wart. My fur babies are a HUGE part of my life, and leaving them behind just isn’t an option for me. I end up more stressed than I started. Thankfully, since they are such a huge part of my life, I have put in TONS of positive training time and my babies are well behaved.

I always ask before I just show up with my fur babies, but I can enjoy myself fully during my self care vacation if I can include my dogs- At least the two that are not active service dogs. *You may have to pay an additional fee at hotels.*

I sleep better at night with my fur babies beside me. However, if you have some really rambunctious, destructive, or loud pets; a pet sitter, boarder, or animal hotel could be just the thing to give you peace of mind while you are taking care of yourself. Some places even have web cameras, so you can watch.

When your fur babies are well taken care of, you can rest, relax, and you can focus on being happy again. So if they enjoy adventures, exploring new places, and are easy to manage; make them a part of your trip and create new memories with them.

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Enjoying time with well behaved pets helps you feel happy and calm.

Schedule Extra Sleep FIRST

Stress zaps your energy and runs you down. You can feel flu-like symptoms just from being stressed. And when we are stressed, we don’t sleep well. You need to make resting and recharging your body and mind a priority on your self care vacation to maximize your stress relief.

Get a minimum of 8 hours of restful sleep regardless of what time you go to bed. Turn your alarm clock off and allow your body to wake you naturally. Prioritizing sleep will help your brain, and body, relax and allow negative energy to leave.

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Prioritizing sleep will help heal your mind, as well as your body.

Include Hobbies and Activities that Help You Relieve Stress

When I take a self care vacation, I like to include hobbies that relieve stress in my schedule. I take my dogs to new hiking trails, take photos of the trip, read, and more!

If you’re looking to try something new while you are on your self care vacation; try riding horses on the beach, hiking trails and exploring, take a class with a local artist, or bird watch the local birds. –If you traveled to a different area, there will be some different bird breeds for you to see!

Doing the things you love will help you create happiness again and help you heal your soul.

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Partaking in fun hobbies helps to relax and have fun.


Adding a self care vacation plan to your self care plan will help you retreat when you need a break. It can give you back some control when your everyday life is hectic and stressful.

Have you ever taken a self care vacation? Tell me in the comments!

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  1. Such good tips here! I totally agree that keeping your schedule open and not jam packed is the best way to go. I find that slowing down, no matter how you do it, is the best stress reliever! Sometimes if I can’t take a whole trip or whole day, I just commit to moving slower throughout my regular work day, and even that helps 🙂 Love the idea of a self-care vacay!

  2. I love this post. Most of us don’t even realize when we are overloaded with so many daily and weekly activities. It’s nice to take a break every now and then and take time away to just relax and unwind.

  3. Now that spring has finally arrived, I’m actually in the planning phase of a self-care vacation! Love these tips! Found this article at the perfect time 🙂


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